Thursday, July 31, 2014

Things We Learn In Our 20's

The most difficult and most important life lessons are often learnt while we're still in our twenties, as this is a time when we are on a journey to 'find' ourselves and begin to grow into the people we want to be. Anything that's worth having doesn't come easily and in order to change, evolve and become the best we can, we have to face a few stumbling blocks along the way. These are a few significant lessons that most of us will learn while we're in our 20's. 

The Most Important Lessons We Learn In Our 20's

1. Love hurts, but not as much as not loving.

2. The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.

3. You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions.

4. The company does not love you. It has no heart. You are replaceable. 
Keep your parachute handy.

5. Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. 
To marry well, you must choose well.

6. Believe it or not, passions grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what and who is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.

7. Rejoice in your health. It fades fast.

8. Find a passion. 
If you want to develop your passion and gift, stop worrying about the things you do poorly. Go with your strengths.

9. Don’t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment.

10. Most disappointments grow from unmet expectations. Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths, then strive to exceed them.

11. Don’t set expectations for others when they haven’t or cannot commit to them.

12. Don’t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.

13. Don’t worry about making major money immediately, worry first about doing whatever you have to do excellently.

14. Little stuff matters—even in lowly jobs. The boss notices and even if not, your peers and colleagues do.

15. Don’t look down on others because they don’t have what you didn’t earn—your intellect, your beauty, and your culture of birth are undeserved gifts…be humble.

16. Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.

17. Never withhold an apology when it’s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.

18. You don’t need to nurture old guilt when you’re forgiven. But remembering the remorse can help you avoid repeats.

19. The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.

20. Everybody needs an editor. Everybody.

21. Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.

22. If you’re bored, you’re doing it wrong.

23. The skills that will help your career most are the abilities to assimilate, communicate, and persuade. Keep learning.

24. Protect your joy. Nothing is easier to lose by over-thinking, overanalyzing, and second-guessing. On the other hand, always consider the long-term consequences of your choices: stupid decisions made in the moment can rob you of years of joy and happiness.

25. Your purpose in life determines how you frame events. You can maintain your joy in the most dire circumstances if you find meaning for your life. Dig deep.

26. It truly matters what you think about. Think well by reading good books, building good, loving relationships, having good conversation, and imitating great people.

What Have You Learnt in Your 20's?

*Original list by Rich Tatum. Editorial via Schon Magazine.


Chidiogo Maxwell said...

Absolutely stunning!


Jessica said...

These are great and I agree with all of them. My favorite is If you are bored, you are doing it wrong.

Zahra Sandberg said...

What a fantastic post - I agree with all of it! I especially love the 'if you're bored, you are doing it wrong' because we can make anything fun if we are creative! I also love the emphasis on having good friends and being humble. So true.

Have a great week!


bbb said...

this is sooo sooooo sooooo true! I love how you're so inspiring!! this post is magical I love it soo much!! <3 Also, I've discovered lots of things this couple years and one thing I try to remind myself always is what matters to me is actually my perspective toward things. Like, no matter how bad or good people think of me is not going to affect me if I don't take it into my point of view as well as the perspective toward life will determines soo many things that'll be in our lives. It's all about attitude and perspective. Stay positive and keep radiate this vibe, Love xx

Pamela RG said...

These are all very wise. I wish learned them when I was in my 20s. Thank you for encouraging us.

Beautetude said...

Hi Sam! I loved this post so true in all aspects! Sometimes I wonder if I only knew what I know now when I was in my 20's. I really appreciate your inspiring posts.

Rahul Bhatia said...

Very aptly put and these are the essence of life, Sam!

Rebeca Muñoz López said...

Well, this post has left me thinking ... I'm 36 now and I remember well my twenties stage, there are many certain things but even now one is bumping into similar situations, the only thing that makes the difference now is the attitude we take certain situations, now I take things much more calm and I think my reactions :)

getcarriedaway said...

so true sweety, love this post!
wish you a wonderful day!


Sveva said...

great post!!
have a good week!

Gail J said...

All the photos look very stunning!

Milka said...

failure is an opportunity and we are replaceble (I didn't have a parachute handy!) is one of the things I've learned. I should say I look happily back at my 20's but I don't look back, I look forward!
ciao Sam

Mademoisellevi said...

Amazing pics !!! <3

mademoisellemode said...

so nice collection ^^


Jackie Harrison said...

Very motivating great tips doll.

Edyta said...

I am still half way through my 20s and I am still coping with loads of what you have mentioned here :) You are right - high expectations lead to SO MUCH disappointment, but knowing this I still refuse to lower my expectations! I guess I will learn the hard way!

Cinnamon and White Chocolate said...

Great things about 20ies, but wait untill you step into 30ies! I am soon to be 34, and 30ies are awesome! It just that they go too fast! ;)

Bárbara Marques said...

Funny and true :p ehehe

Coco said...

I'm still learning in my 30s!!
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Hélène Heath said...

These are all so well thought through and each one really resonates. What a great post! I especially love the everyone needs an editor - so true!

xx Hélène

Rowena @ rolala loves said...

I'm still constantly learning and no. 7 has seriously resonated with me for the past few years.

Rowena @ rolala loves

Milu Sosa said...

wow, you are so right on all of those tips. It is so funny how only a year difference make a huge impact in how you see things! don't you think? Number 8 really got to me "Find a passion" this is something I'm working on, focusing on my strengths! Thanks for sharing such an amazing post!



Mary Jo Matsumoto said...

I really enjoyed this post! So many good lessons that get learned well beyond the 20s :)

xo Mary Jo

Mª Pilar Domínguez said...

I am in my late thirties but I still remember my twenties, heheehe. I loved your thoughts. My favourites were number 6 and 7, especially this one: health is very important to achieve the rest of the things in life. Kisses and I wish you a nice day, my dear Sam:)

Beauty Editer said...

awesome pot and editorial


Beauty Unearthly said...

Love the collection of amazing looks!

LoveT. said...

Great Points!

kisses :)

Patricia G. said...

I learn that it is very importan to enjoy the life! ;)

Style and Paper said...

Loved this post!! I still need to learn some of these!

Style and Paper

Manuela Muratore said...

i'm still learning ... so true words

Inma León said...

wow, amazings looks

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Daydream Frenzy | Austin Style Blog said...

Yes to ALL of these. I'm only 23, but so far I've learned that it's more important to be direct and up front with someone if you're upset with them rather than be passive agressive.

Daydream Frenzy

Paola Lauretano said...

Amazing editorial!!!!!
Great pics!!!!
Kisses doll!!!

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Lilli said...

Hi Sam! This is for sure a very wise list, true and complete. You know, though my 20s are gone from very few, I feel like I still have to learn more. Lessons n.8, 16 and 21 are for sure my fav, I fully share them. Happy Friday dear! xo

Margaret Dallospedale said...

So amazing collection babe
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Vanessa Billie-Jill-Jean said...

So true, love this post. <333

Vicky Perperidou said...

hey sweetheart
such an amazing blog!
you have veru unique style!
love the details of your outfit! you look stunning!
I would love to stay in touch with you! would you like
to follow each other? find me in


PiotrowskaPaulina said...

Love it ! very artistic

Emmylou said...

Being in my 30's, I can honestly say AMEN to all of these, Sam:) Such a great post.

Have a good one, my dear:)

Michelle LL said...

Interesting post and photos. I'm grateful for all the good and not so good experiences that come my way. It gives me a chance to learn and gain a lesson in life. Have a great day Sam!! xo

tr3ndygirl fashion blogger said...

gorgeous editorials,love these pics
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Adeola Naomi Aderemi said...

The most amazing post ever on here dear Sam!
You have get all the points so true and inspiring.
Thank you for this post darling!
Have a great weekend!

Toks said...

I've learnt some of these things already but I've still got a few years to go to learn some more. Great post. Have a great weekend Sam. xoxoxo

Shannon Jenkins said...

These are right on Sam! Love this post!

<3 Shannon

Tanya said...

Hi dear Sam:). What a gorgeousness post and the pictures are so fashionable. I am so enjoying your today post:). I've learned all that when I was in my 20s and still learning even now:).

Have a lovely Friday:).

sepatuholig-Grace Njio said...

Some people dont really see or realize when they were in their 20's and I am glad that you post it so that people can realize and process can be really amazing trip to maturity!
Great post!

Kati said...

I love number 4 - so true, but so many people dedicate their lives to their jobs...


Carolina ogliaro said...

You are a so wise person my dear, you always write the right things <3
Much love for you


Mira Devils said...

Happy Friday Sam!!! Haha I'm sure not everyone has learned that in their 20s. I have learned a lot and I'm still learning. The most important thing I have learned: If he doesn't make you happy leave him! Sadly it took me a long time to learn it but better late than never :D

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Elle Sees said...

all of this is so true! and some i'm still learning in my 30s

Elena Dal Maso said...

Hi Sam, I agree with all the tips, I've learned them not only in my Twenties but in my whole life :)
Job and husband in a particular way... :)


MilanoTime said...

What a great post Sam!
Wish you a great Friday!

fashion doctor said...

amazing post, dear, very inspirational! kisses

esosandraUTD said...

Stunning pictures. Great post.

Julie Chagas said...

I'm 20 now and I'm still learning these things in life. The first topic is so true!
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Sofia said...

Those pics are absolutely inspiring, thank you !

Bisous !

cat eyes & skinny jeans said...

Wonderful list of essential knowledge for living your 20s happily. Also digging the gorgeous images you included!!


Alexis Grace of North On Harper said...

I completely agree with number 13--- it is so important to do things and to be excellent in what you do and who you are!

Anonymous said...

love this post! I have two years until my 20s yet haha.
the pics are so gorgeous too. colourful!
check out my birthday month at <3
stay pretty. XOXO

nicoleta buru said...

Awww, super gorgoeus inspo, my dear *_*



Maja eM said...

So true! You couldn't be more right! And great pics too!

Helena Resende said...

Really true :)

Denisa said...

Nice post. xa

Alessandra Heidelberg said...

Great post! Beautiful pictures!

Jointy&Croissanty said...

Very clever! Points three and eight are the most essential for me but I agree with everything. In my 20's I learnt to being assertive and possessed knowledge that love is most important in my life.
Have a great weekend:)

Linda B said...

This was such a great list, especially since I'm in my 20's! :)

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Kashaya said...

Great post.=)

Debra Lynn Mejia said...

Pearls of wisdom! I wish I could go back in time with the knowledge and wisdom I have now to avoid the mistakes I made in my 20s. But there is no going back is there? Heavy sigh :)

Amy said...

Great post. :)

Magda Carvalho said...

wow love the colors ;)

Bessana Blue said...

amazing post, got me thinking! and I love the pics as well! <3

Denise Sabs said...

You know I love your Friday Frills - I was just a bit busy for a change, but on Friday I have to come here to get that fix of positive feelings! # 2,3, 4, 9 and 10 - wow! People shouldn't compare themselves to others, but many keep on doing and then they feel down, because sometimes there's no way to achieve certain things. People should be humble, somehow - not submissive, but humble. # 15, 16, 17 and 21 are also amazing. I love your Friday Frills, they help me so much!

Kim Alston said...

These are so good Sam! Definitely important lessons learned.

Dawn GT said...

omgggg! love these photos!!! wow!


Caro * said...

Stunning post and these pictures are amazing ! :)

Sophie Sierra said...

This is why you are one of the sweetest, most magical, enchanting, wonderful, inspirational, thought-provoking bloggers out there! You should be very proud of yourself Sam, I love your beautiful posts xo

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Miu said...

I love this post!
I'm only at the beginning of my 20's so I cannot really contribute to the list, but I already had to learn some of the stuff you compiled.